If there’s a Soul Mate For Everyone…

 

Happy Valentines Day folks!!! For many people, today is a special day, filled with Candlelit dinners, roses sent to the job and romantic nights. For me it means eating too much candy at your office V-day party and wishing that your Valentine wasn’t so far away . But for a number of people, women in particular, Valentine’s Days are something to be hated.  Hated because it’s another day in which single people are told that being single is a bad thing: told that if you’re alone then something is wrong with you. A Married co-worker of mine told me that V-day is SAD: Singles Awareness Day and it seems like there’s no other day in which people are more aware of their singleness.

So this week as I’ve been searching for articles and interesting tidbits for the Upcoming official launch of the Brown Sugar Pages (Feb 28) I’ve notice ton of Valentines Day Articles. One thing that caught my eye was this article about finding your “Soul mate.” the article was right next to another piece about surviving “Valentines Day Alone.” Soul mates are a beautiful concept, the idea that you can connect with someone so deeply that your souls are matched. It’s an idea that many people, particularly women believe in whole-heartedly. I do too, just not in the traditional sense.
There was an episode of “Sex and the City” in which the women were sitting at a table of a swanky restaurant; bemoaning their apparent lack of relationships and pondering the idea that they may never find theirs. Then “Charlotte” says, “Maybe we could be each other’s soul mates. And men could be these great nice guys to have fun with.” That’s a new concept. Many of us search for a soul mate in romantic relationships, but by doing that we are liming ourselves and the people in our lives. Find your Soul Mate in Jesus and your relationship with God. Your soul mate could be the friends the laugh at jokes that no one get but you. Your soul mate could be the beautiful baby that came from your romantic relationship. All of those are platonic relationships but they can be greatly fulfilling. Fill up the space on the “soul mate train” with the people that love you and connect with you on a non-romantic plane, the people that choose to love you even though you’re broke and not sleeping with them. Spend your single Valentines Day’s showing love to all of them.
So yes today is SAD and singles should be aware. Be Aware of the blessings in your life, the strength that you have, the loving people in your life. Be aware of how fabulous you are and that there’s no point in settling for some dead rosés and dinner at the Red Lobster. Be aware of the fact that good things come to those who wait. It’s ok to wait for love and let you romantic relationships blossom into “great love.” And if you haven’t found your “great love” yet that’s ok, you’ll already have your soul mate.