A letter of Resignation

I officially turn in my letter of resignation. You see, I had no idea that the job description would change so drastically. Maybe I never understood the job at all. In either case I’m done: take this job and shove it. On this day right now, I permanently declare that I am no longer attempting to be a “Ride or die” or a “Down A** “chick …
When these terminologies first entered our lexicon, many of us ladies thought that being “ride or die” or “down a**” was just being a GOOD woman for a GOOD man; Loving him, being there for him, supporting his dreams and goals, being his “go to” girl, his shoulder to cry on and a rock to lean on in times of trouble. This doesn’t seem like an unreasonable thing to do for GOOD man that you’re in love with. So we declared ourselves “ride or die” chicks. Through thick and thin, we said. But thick been getting really thin lately.
It seems that our desire to declare our devotion has been distorted to some extent. A lot of people have decided that the “down chick”, the “ride or die chick” must tolerate any and everything the man in her life wants to do. As I heard one brother say, “I do me and you do me too”
In the midst of this man shortage many “stick with him women” have been wasting their loyalty on the “At Leasts” (“At least he has a job, at least he takes care of his kids, at least he doesn’t beat me” etc.). And so we have throngs of women who are being lied to, cheated on, disrespected, verbally, physically or financially abused, but they stand by it because they’re “ride or die for their man.”
Many times when these women question the actions of the men in their lives the “At leasts” turn the tables and question their loyalty; “You turnin’ your back on me?” “Give a brother a chance” “You gone believe her over me?” Believe it or not this line of questioning works often because an “at least” will drain the life out of a “ride or die” until loyalty is all she has left.
So seeing how the job actually works has forced me to resign. I am not down for whatever, I will not turn a blind eye to infidelity and console myself with knowing that I’m “wifey” and I cannot love any man who’s not strong enough to love and respect himself and the lady in his life. I choose me first!
Now I can and I’m eager to LOVE, SUPPORT and RESPECT a GOOD man. I am willing to be a confidant and open ear for a GOOD man on a hard day. I am very capable of being the rib (Eve) to his Adam, the Jada to his Will or the Ruby Dee to his Ossie Davis. I am a GOOD woman for a GOOD man. But I cannot and will not be a “Ride or die” Chick for an “at least.” And YOU shouldn’t be either.