What began as a dream for single mamas everywhere is being marred with controversy and shame. Rumors of infidelity, divorce and ruining an island nation are just a few of the problems faced by Actress Lisa Raye and her Island king Michael Misick (the Premier/President of Turks and Caicos), but the newest allegations take the cake.
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This news made me sooo sad. James Bevel, a former Civil Rights Leader has been charged with incest and unfortunately with his own daughters. It’s a crazy story but apparently this man had been molesting his child at the age of 6 and continued routinely molesting her for years. The abuse culminated with full on intercourse when the daughter was 15 (this took place in the early 90’s). As adults his daughter and two of her other sisters (he has 14!!!) confronted Bevel because of fears that he was abusing a younger daughter. A taped phone call was his undoing. In a 2005 conversation with the daughter he raped, he defended his actions, partially blaming her for not resisting his advances and shaming her for ‘fornicating’ – Read the rest of this entry ?
Detroit mayor, Kwame Kilpatrick has been charged with perjury and many people are calling for his resignation.
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From the “oh Really?” files, Ray-J is calling out Chris Stokes and Marques Houston ( and by out I mean OUT!) in and interview with Ballerstatus, a hip hop website. Brandy’s little Bro had this to say…
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Your Cheating Heart Showed up to the Hornets Game
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With the recent statistics about Young black girls and STDs it seems like sex in the Black community is on everyone’s mind. Last year we all debated the responsibility of rap and hip hop in continuing the objectification of black women. Now everyone’s interested in the black church’s role of lack thereof in sexual education. Read the rest of this entry ?
Sometimes I find myself just sitting in front of my computer and shaking my head in disbelief. Today my co-worker, knowing of my love for MSNBC, asked me if I’d seen the new stats about teenage girls and STDs. I quickly looked on my computer to find that 1 in 4 teen girls has a sexually transmitted disease and the highest prevalence is in Black girls!! What’s going on? I went to high school so you can’t convince me that black girls are more sexually active than their non-black counterparts. Black adult women have the highest rates of aids cases and black teens have a high rate of STDs, particularly HPV (which can cause cervical cancer, sterilization and the blindness in unborn children). Once again as a black woman with a ton of black female friends you cannot convince me that all of these women are more sexually active than non-blacks. This is a pandemic!
Studies show that a large number of black women are contracting Aids from long term heterosexual activity. That means too many women are not protecting themselves from un-safe sex. Ladies, ladies, ladies!
Now this is strictly from my conjecture but it seems to me that the black community has the wrong ideas about sex and sex education. We keep burying our heads in the sand and backing that “Thang” up at the same time. We have parents, schools and churches pretending that everyone is abstinent (many people are indeed abstinent, but that’s not the point), so they don’t even talk about sex unless they are saying “don’t do it.” At the same time the media, celebrities, songs and music is all about sex, making it sound like the best thing you’ve never tried. So like a moth to a flame young people are drawn to sex and a lot of people never learn about safe sex and responsible behavior from a mature or reliable source. And young women in particular feel the burden of being morally responsible for sexual chastity or risk being labeled a name (whore, slut etc) It becomes something that they do on impulse, with out adults knowing so they don’t get in trouble or embarrassed and if you’re afraid of getting in trouble or getting caught would you carry protection?? Would you know how to use a condom? Would you be on birth control?
Many women know about condoms but few know about other forms of female contraception so they leave their sexual health in the hands of the men in their lives. Why ladies? Why would you let anyone else handle the something so important? (No, these are not fool proof but neither are condoms or BC. The only safe sex is no sex)
Please, please, please Get tested for every type of STD, Talk to your daughters about Safe sex! It’s ok that you want them to wait until marriage. Tell them that too, but make sure they know all of the options because one day they may need it (yes, even if they are married). Sisters if you know your man is tipping and you choose to stay with him anyways; you should be the main one using protection. Get off the “share a man” plan! We love to blame the “down- low” brothas, but lets be honest, a whole lot of women know that they have cheating straight men in their lives and they carry just as much disease. yet they continue to let the fear of being alone put them at risk sexually. Get a grip ladies!! Take control of you sexual health! Please don’t let another static like this come out again!
It’s your Health!
Kwame, Kwame, Kwame… We had such high hopes for you and yet you keep messing up!
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*Disclaimer- Since I failed to do so the last time I will warn you that this is not targeted towards anyone particulary any men that I know or that are in my life. The men I know are wonderful and would never be gulity of such foolishness. 
According to the Urban League’s State of Black America Report, Black Women are facing both the best and worst times in our history. Condi’s historically high position in the current presidential administration, Michelle Obama being hailed as the new “Jackie Kennedy O.” and Oprah just being Oprah, just a few examples of modern black female achievement. Business owned by black women increased by 147% in the last ten years and sistas are working more than brothas nationwide. And yet we are suffering. Read the rest of this entry ?
I officially turn in my letter of resignation. You see, I had no idea that the job description would change so drastically. Maybe I never understood the job at all. In either case I’m done: take this job and shove it. On this day right now, I permanently declare that I am no longer attempting to be a “Ride or die” or a “Down A** “chick … Read the rest of this entry ?
Shannon the Tampa Diva
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